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At the risk of sounding ungrateful, as a child I didnt appreciate those gifts of socks and underwear that got wrapped up and put under the tree because they were things I needed nike air max 2014 para mujer , not necessarily wanted. As a person who was raised with my necessities provided, I expected gifts to be the things I wanted, not the things I needed. The other consideration is whether the gifts you give are actually gifts you want to receive. My father always joked, You should never give a gift you wouldnt want to receive. That way, if they dont like it, they might give it back to you. He definitely had a point coming from a selfish point of view but if your goal in gift giving is to improve the relationship or at least maintain the one you have, shouldnt you take the time to consider or find out what that person would like to receive instead of what you might like in their shoes? Another fatal flaw in deciding what gifts to give occurs when you identify something you would like a person to have regardless of his or her actual desires. My mother was always great at this. She used to buy me clothes she wanted me to wear knowing they would be clothes I wouldnt like. She wanted my brother to love reading so she would buy him books nike air max 2014 baratas , even though to this day he has yet to read one of them. My father hated to wear ties but my mother was always buying them for him. You get the idea . . . Sometimes we think we know better than the other person what they should want and we are determined to help them see what they are missing. I recently began thinking of this because the man in my life lost his mother. He is broken up about it. He is grieving and in his grief, he prefers to be alone. This has been challenging for me because I am a nurturer. I want to take care of him during this crisis. He wants to handle it independently. If I dont give him the space he wants, I will be just like my mother giving me clothes I will never wear. Im offering time together when what he really wants is time alone. I know if I was hurting, Id want him to take care of me and spend time with me. I was reminded of this yet again while having a conversation with a man about his girlfriend. She has been experiencing a lot of back pain. He wants to rub her back, make her soup and take care of her. She wants to be alone. He likened it to throwing a ball to someone that wont even put their arms out to catch it. Taking that analogy a bit farther, I said, Yes nike air max 1 mujer baratas , you are throwing the ball to someone who already told you they didnt want to play catch in the first place. And all you are doing is hitting them in the head with the ball! I believe a lot of the gifts we decide to give are given with the Golden Rule in mind: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This sounds good but in reality, we are often treating others in ways that would work for us but that dont really work for the other person. When it comes to genuine gift giving, lets give the gift of giving people what they actually want. Dr. Tony Alesandra came up with the Platinum Rule, Do onto others as they would have you do unto them. Give that a try and you wont have to think so hard about what gifts to give. Just ask and listen to what the people in your life tell you they want. As long as it isnt self-destructive, that is always the right gift to give. Kim Olver, is the founder InsideOut Empowerment. a revolutionary process designed to free your mind, open your heart and transform your life. She is the award winning author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself nike air max 1 comprar , Your Partner, and Your Life, an expert author for YourTango and has also contributed to various magazines. 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